Your Dialogue With Money Determines Who And What You Attract

ID-10057261One of my mentors, Jeffrey Combs, is an expert when it comes to understanding how your relationship about money determines the abundance (or lack thereof) in your life. 

What I've discovered through mentorship and climbing the success ladder is this. 

Oftentimes as we embark on life changing journeys (like starting a home based business), one may have issues about receiving money and having abundance in their life that ….

1)  They are not even aware of; and

2)  Keeps them self-sabotaging over and over and over throughout their life.

The good news is if you'll take the little challenge I have for you below, you will see almost immediately what your thoughts and relationships are about money.  And when you have receive the fullness of your awareness and recognize it's not self serving your success, you now know WHAT is broken.  It's great to be able to identify where a 'glitch' is in our abilities to move forward. 


You deserve money.

You deserve abundance and prosperity.

What do you say about that?

If you have a clog in the wheel with your relationship towards money, no matter what you do or say, you won't have it.  In fact money is something you'll repel and push away without even being aware you're doing that. 

If I were to ask you if you were repelling money, you'd say "of course not!"  That sounds nuts, right!?  This is where the 'unawareness' lies.

Take a scroll down this post and see if you can identify anything familiar here that perhaps you're ready to change.

Jeffrey Combs says this:

Your "Dialogue with Money" determines who and what you attract to your reality.

If you consciously or unconsciously project "Broke Thoughts," you will continue to attract people and situations to fulfill the feelings that keep you disappointed.

To change you must be willing to objectively understand how you have been conditioned to ask for, receive, deserve and create money on your terms and your time frame as an entrepreneur.

If your conditioning has created a behavior where you feel guilty about receiving, you will find ways to sabotage your results.

Today change your feelings about asking, receiving and deserving what you are worth and what you are capable of creating.

Here's a little challenge for you.

pen and paperOver the next 7 days, keep a little notebook with you. 


Every time you have a negative thought about life, your money, your attitude towards spending or receiving money, your thoughts about price tags, your thoughts about whether you deserve something or not, write them down.

I also want you to keep track of ALL the conversations you are exposed to, are invited to participate in and actually DO participate in.  Then make a notation about how those conversations make you feel. 

How was your energy? 

What was your outlook for your future and life?

As you listen to music, watch TV of any kind, write down what words and images you're filling your mind with.  Make a note on how you feel afterwards.  Again…

How was your energy? 

What was your outlook for your future and life?

Do you feel closer to your dreams?  Are you positive and energized for your future?  Do you have high hopes? 

This will give you the EXACT subject matter you are filling your mind and day with, the words and thoughts you are living by and the belief systems you have.  


Compare Your Life's Current Results

Now compare what you're choosing to expose yourself to, believing about and participating in on a day to day basis to that of the results you are experiencing in your life. 

You will see they line up perfectly!  We each attract the life we have, whether we want to admit it or not. 

My guess is you will be AMAZED at the amount of time, consideration and attention you are giving to your self-sabotaging beliefs.  I know I was when I first started!


A negative action that you think completely harmless might be as simple as getting a cup of coffee at Starbucks and you think..

"Geesh, a $7 cup of coffee?"
"That's expensive, I can't afford that."
"I don't deserve a $7 cup of coffee."
"I can't justify spending $210 a month for a 1 cup of coffee a day delight."

BAM!  Write it down.

Then, I want you to rephrase those thoughts…

"$7 cup of coffee? No problem.   If I want it I can have it."
"I deserve this cup of coffee.  I'm totally worth it."
"I will enjoy this cup of coffee guilt-free."
"I choose not to buy it because it doesn't align with my goals today.  However, I will enjoy a cup once a week to celebrate the daily action steps I'm taking towards my dreams."

Do you see the difference?  One is self defeating, the other is self winning.


It starts with how you feel about money


Money is everywhere. 

You can have as much of it as you want once your relationship with it is healthy and you take action towards receiving it. You've got to see it for what it is, it's just money.  It's not to be loved… but rather just something that transfers and you're a part of that transfer process.

You've heard it all your life…

"Money doesn't grow on trees"
"We can't afford that"
"Money is for other people"
"Money is evil"
"Don't even ask, the answer is no"

These phrases were especially overused if you grew up during the baby boom years where your parents were part of the depression.  Inasmuch, these are belief systems that are deeply planted and it's quite possible that a new 'download' of belief about money is overdue.



words we use


Change your Words

Start deciding in favor of yourself and your success by not only your thoughts, but your words. 

Start making a conscious decision to think and choose your words carefully, regardless of how you're feeling.  Your words create your reality. 

Stop saying things that hold you back, even if you're hurt, frustrated or angry.  Think of how you can reword your feelings to place your energy where you want it to be to serve you.

Assignment:  When something just pops out of your mouth and it's defeating, write it down.

"I can't….."
"This sucks…."
"I hate…."
"How come I always…."
"Why does ….."


How are you finishing these sentences? 

Put a lock and key on your words and think carefully BEFORE you speak and forbid yourself to speak and put into the universe any negative phrases.  None, Zero. 

Adopt what Thumper from Disney's Bambi says…

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.


Likes Attract Like

attractionThink about your own circle of friends and those in other circles you know about. 

If you are hanging around complainers, guess what?  Well, if you complain, you will attract more complainers in your life.

Successful people hang out with successful people and their success continues to grow… And they attract people who want to be successful or other successful to their already full circle.

Decide WHO you will hang around. 

Be aware of how you are acting as you hangout with different people. 

Notice your mood, your attitude, your spirit.  Is this moving you forward in life? 

Or is it dragging you down? 

You may have to make difficult decisions about spending time with those who just want to complain.  Sometimes letting go of friends to have a better life is the hardest thing to do.

I wrote an article on this touchy subject a long time ago.  It still stands true today.  It's called 3 Tips for Keeping Friends While Building Your Business.

It's your life and you can either have the one you dream about, or settle for the one you have.

Who is Jeffrey Combs Anyway?

He's the president and founder of GoldenMastermind Seminars.

Visit his site on


"Thanks Jeffrey for the shout out!"  ~ Debbie

Leave your comments.. I'd love to hear from you :)


  1. says

    Love this post Debbie! So many people don't realize that they ARE what they THINK! That includes money too! I am going to do your 7-day challenge for the experience. I'm sure I need some work in that area too and always looking for ways to improve.
    Thanks again.

  2. says

    You are a true inspiration, Debbie… Just found your blogs today, and I will read as much as possible, while I work on my 8 core commitments.. Oh, yeah, reading daily is one of them… I don´t know how you do it, but you are amazing, my friend… Thanks for setting an example & raising the bar for people to be empowered and live life to the fullest, giving as much as you possibly can… Which is what I´m getting from your high vibrations… CHEERS!

  3. Debbie Turner says

    Hey Monica…

    Thanks so much for your kind words and hearing from YOU … INSPIRES me! Know that there’s a world out there of women who are searching to connect with you as you blog :) Blessings… Debbie

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *