Have You Lost Your Passions?
Living An Unfulfilled Life?
The world is filled with people who are going through the motions of life and acting as though they have it all together. But inside they are hurting like crazy.
I’ve had the opportunity to meet and share with others their pain of not only not being able to create the lifestyle they want, but they are a level deeper in the muck and don’t even feel passion for life.
They are dead to themselves, they feel hopeless and stuck and wonder if this is as good as it gets and what the purpose of living is.
Behind closed doors is the reality of our lives, the quite places where we don’t allow others to go.
The purpose of this blog is to let you know, if you’re one whom I’m talking about, that I understand. I was there years ago but I also found my purpose and there is a light at the end of the tunnel!
The best is yet to come my friend and life is great!
I want to let you know you have a bright and meaningful future!
I want to let you know that you’re amazing and you have so much value that others will appreciate when you can get to the point where you can share it!
I want to let you know that God has a purpose and destiny for you.
He has plans to prosper you and give you a good life.
While there can be many things behind these doors that makes our lives unfulfilled, there are a couple of essential ingredients that are missing from millions of lives.
The first is a meaningful relationship with God and another is passion.
Because most people are living unconsciously, they don’t even realize passion is a missing piece. To be able to identify what’s missing and then pursing it, bringing color back into their lives, is awesome.
All too often, in the quiet of our hearts (you know the moments, we’ve all had them many times over), those moments of reflection….
… those thought provoking moments sometimes when we least expect them…
… like when the house is quiet and you’re up before anyone else on a lazy Saturday morning and you’re holding a comfortably warm mug with two hands, smelling and sipping the first cup of coffee while looking out the window at the new fallen snow. As you stare out over the glistening snow, you find yourself very aware of how everything is perfectly still and quiet and amazingly beautiful. Your mind plays back all the past snow memories you’ve had and all the dreams of snow vacations never taken, of snowmen never built, or hills never sledded. It stirs a feeling of regret and maybe you realize how fast time flies.
… or gazing into a crackling wood fire after coming in from the cold, soaking in the warmth for awhile because you have no place to go or anything that has to be done right at the moment. So you stay and allow the fire to cradle you after you’ve put on a clean dry pair of socks and wrapped yourself in a family heirloom quilt that snuggles and holds you while you ponder about things…life…where you are in this journey.
… or quietly sitting on the seashore as the rhythm of ocean waves soothes your soul, giving to you freely yet reminding you of its power and demands respect. You dig your hands and toes into the sand just to feel the sensation against your skin. You watch and listen to the seagulls and stare out onto the horizon. You are reminded that time is passing and dreams are fading and wondering what life is all about anyway.
It’s in times like these when nature itself, through the snow, the fire, the water, calls out to us and begs us to reflect on our lives, where we are, how empty or full we really are at the “soul” level. Sadly, too many times, most fall short of having any sense of passion in their lives.
Outside of nature causing you to reflect, there are moments when your life may seem out of control and perhaps after a steamy shower you wipe the mirror to see yourself. As you look into the eyes of the person looking back at you, you begin an honest inner dialog. You ask yourself,
- “What do you really want to do?”
- “Are you pursuing your passion?”
- “Are you excited to meet each new day?”
- “What are you created to do, to have, to be?”
- “Are you living your life’s purpose?”
Most often when people are truly reflective of their lives and are totally honest with nobody looking, their hearts sink with heaviness, their eyes tear up, their shoulders lower and back slumps because they realize they are not living a life of passion or purpose.
For some, time is speeding up and stuck on fast forward. They are fully aware time is passing them by and panic and desperation set in… or total resolve that they are doomed to never find a life of meaning.
Either way, it’s not a good feeling, but rather one of hopelessness. And worse yet, nobody comes along to help them up, help them see that they are valuable, priceless actually, and the world would embrace them if they would begin to search out and follow their passion. But as is evidenced by society, people accept their situation as life sentence and have stopped fighting for something better.
Most realize all the things they dreamed about and fully planned on doing, having or being 10, 20, 50 years ago, are passing by and they’re wondering where time has gone and whether it’s too late. Some can’t even remember what it was they were so passionate about years ago.
I have friends that are in their 60’s and 70’s and they tell me, “Debbie, I have no passion. I’m not passionate about anything.” I want to cry for them. To have lived for over half a century and not being able to identify any passions is sad.
The truth is, if we were to peel this 60 and 70 year old onion, we would find many passions! But they’re so tightly wrapped up in day to day life with layers and layers of struggle, pain, failure, broken dreams and relationships, lost loved ones, worry and stress that the passions have been squashed. They’ve been stepped on and shoved in a drawer and told to stay there because “this is your life now, deal with it.”
In sharing with friends and those I’ve had the joy of mentoring, I found there are many, many 30, 40 and 50 year olds that share the same “no passion” story. What has society programmed into us? Certainly not pursing passions first.
Wikipedia defines Passion (which comes from the Latin word patior meaning to suffer or to endure) as an emotion applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. The term is also often applied to a lively or eager interest in or admiration for a proposal, cause, or activity or love.
Passion can be expressed as a feeling of unusual excitement, enthusiasm or compelling emotion towards a subject, idea, person, or object. A person is said to have a passion for something when he has a strong positive affinity for it. A love for something and a passion for something are often used synonymously.
Passion Gives us the Skip in our Step
I’m surprised by how many people are unable to answer these questions. They’ve almost lost track, or have lost track of who they are and what they’re about. I will share mine with you and break it down, almost “back end” into it and show you how to dig deep and get to the root of your passion.
For me, my passion is spending time with family, scrapbooking our memories and life’s journey, making a difference in the life of a child and helping adults find their dreams again and go after them.
So the next question then is… what allows me to pursue those activities?
Time freedom. So time freedom tops my list of passions.
If you back up a step further, and ask how can you have time freedom?
Because I’m my own boss and doing what I enjoy (making money with scrapbooking and a network marketing product congruent with my core passions… travel, time freedom and debt freedom).
I control my time, my day, my activities, my income, everything.
Because I control my own income, I have financial freedom.
…The financial freedom allows the time freedom which allows me to pursue my passions which puts a skip in my step.
See how that works?
Let’s focus on YOUR passion and bring this home to YOU.
- What are you passionate about?
- Can you quickly identify what your passions are?
- What makes your heart sing?
- What are you doing everyday that makes getting out of bed excited to start your day?
- How are you doing in the “passions department” of your life?
I challenge you today, not tomorrow, to reflect on your life. If you’re not where you want to be, why not?
Understand that nothing is impossible and it’s never too late! If you believe that with me, you will be unstoppable!
If you’re not on the right path, I encourage you to start a journal of a new journey. Fresh starts and new beginnings are fresh each day. If you have been feeling unfilled, ask God to lead you down a new path and to reveal and renew your passions that He created within you. He’s faithful and He’ll do it!
You only have one life. This is not a rehearsal and there’s no second takes. Search deep into what you want and go after it with yet another passion.
I wanted to write this blog to identify the problem, to help you start to face it and do something about it.
I’m cheering you on my friend!
Have an awesome passion filled day! You’re awesome!
PS; I would love to hear from you. Please leave a comment and share if you’ve ever struggled to find and discover your passion. What did you do to dig deep, to peel your onion so to speak, and begin a journey of following your passions?