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Have You Lost Your Passions?

Living An Unfulfilled Life?

The world is filled with people who are going through the motions of life and acting as though they have it all together.  But inside they are hurting like crazy.

I’ve had the opportunity to meet and share with others their pain of not only not being able to create the lifestyle they want, but they are a level deeper in the muck and don’t even feel passion for life.

They are dead to themselves, they feel hopeless and stuck and wonder if this is as good as it gets and what the purpose of living is.

Behind closed doors is the reality of our lives, the quite places where we don’t allow others to go.

The purpose of this blog is to let you know, if you’re one whom I’m talking about, that I understand.  I was there years ago but I also found my purpose and there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

The best is yet to come my friend and life is great!

I want to let you know you have a bright and meaningful future!

I want to let you know that you’re amazing and you have so much value that others will appreciate when you can get to the point where you can share it!

I want to let you know that God has a purpose and destiny for you.  

He has plans to prosper you and give you a good life.

Be encouraged!

While there can be many things behind these doors that makes our lives unfulfilled, there are a couple of essential ingredients that are missing from millions of lives.

The first is a meaningful relationship with God and another is passion.

Because most people are living unconsciously, they don’t even realize passion is a missing piece.  To be able to identify what’s missing and then pursing it,  bringing color back into their lives, is awesome.

All too often, in the quiet of our hearts (you know the moments, we’ve all had them many times over), those moments of reflection….

… those thought provoking moments sometimes when we least expect them…

… like when the house is quiet and you’re up before anyone else on a lazy Saturday morning and you’re holding a comfortably warm mug with two hands, smelling and sipping the first cup of coffee while looking out the window at the new fallen snow.   As you stare out over the glistening snow, you find yourself very aware of how everything is perfectly still and quiet and amazingly beautiful.  Your mind plays back all the past snow memories you’ve had and all the dreams of snow vacations never taken, of snowmen never built, or hills never sledded.  It stirs a feeling of  regret and maybe you realize how fast time flies.

… or gazing into a crackling wood fire after coming in from the cold, soaking in the warmth for awhile because you have no place to go or anything that has to be done right at the moment.  So you stay and allow the fire to cradle you after you’ve put on a clean dry pair of socks and wrapped yourself in a family heirloom quilt that snuggles and holds you while you ponder about things…life…where you are in this journey.

… or quietly sitting on the seashore as the rhythm of ocean waves soothes your soul, giving to you freely yet reminding you of its power and demands  respect.  You dig your hands and toes into the sand just to feel the sensation against your skin.  You watch and listen to the seagulls and stare out onto the horizon.   You are reminded that time is passing and dreams are fading and wondering what life is all about anyway.

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It’s in times like these when nature itself, through the snow, the fire, the water, calls out to us and begs us to reflect on our lives, where we are, how empty or full we really are at the “soul” level.  Sadly, too many times, most fall short of having any sense of passion in their lives.

Outside of nature causing you to reflect, there are moments when your life may seem out of control and perhaps after a steamy shower you wipe the mirror to see yourself.  As you look into the eyes of the person looking back at you, you begin an honest inner dialog. You ask yourself,

  • “What do you really want to do?”
  • “Are you pursuing your passion?”
  • “Are you excited to meet each new day?”
  • “What are you created to do, to have, to be?”
  • “Are you living your life’s purpose?”

Most often when people are truly reflective of their lives and are totally honest with nobody looking, their hearts sink with heaviness, their eyes tear up, their shoulders lower and back slumps because they realize they are not living a life of passion or purpose.

For some, time is speeding up and stuck on fast forward.  They are fully aware time is passing them by and panic and desperation set in… or total resolve that they are doomed to never find a life of meaning.

Either way, it’s not a good feeling, but rather one of  hopelessness.  And worse yet, nobody comes along to help them up, help them see that they are valuable,  priceless actually, and the world would embrace them if they would begin to search out and follow their passion.  But as is evidenced by society, people accept their situation as life sentence and have stopped fighting for something better.

Most realize all the things they dreamed about and  fully planned on doing, having or being 10, 20, 50 years ago, are passing by and they’re wondering where time has gone and whether it’s too late.  Some can’t even remember what it was they were so passionate about years ago.

I have friends that are in their 60’s and 70’s and they tell me, “Debbie, I have no passion.  I’m not passionate about anything.”  I want to cry for them.  To have lived for over half a century and not being able to identify any passions is sad.

The truth is, if we were to peel this 60 and 70 year old onion, we would find many passions!  But they’re so tightly wrapped up in day to day life with layers and layers of struggle, pain, failure, broken dreams and relationships, lost loved ones, worry and stress that the passions have been squashed.  They’ve been stepped on and shoved in a drawer and told to stay there because “this is your life now, deal with it.”

In sharing with friends and those I’ve had the joy of mentoring, I found there are many, many 30, 40 and 50 year olds that share the same “no passion” story.  What has society programmed into us?  Certainly not pursing passions first.

Wikipedia defines Passion (which comes from the Latin word patior meaning to suffer or to endure) as an emotion applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. The term is also often applied to a lively or eager interest in or admiration for a proposal, cause, or activity or love.

Passion can be expressed as a feeling of unusual excitement, enthusiasm or compelling emotion towards a subject, idea, person, or object. A person is said to have a passion for something when he has a strong positive affinity for it. A love for something and a passion for something are often used synonymously.

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Passion Gives us the Skip in our Step

I’m surprised by how many people are unable to answer these questions. They’ve almost lost track, or have lost track of who they are and what they’re about. I will share mine with you and break it down, almost “back end” into it and show you how to dig deep and get to the root of your passion.

For me, my passion is spending time with family, scrapbooking our memories and life’s journey, making a difference in the life of a child and helping adults find their dreams again and go after them.

So the next question then is… what allows me to pursue those activities?

Time freedom.  So time freedom tops my list of passions.

If you back up a step further, and ask how can you have time freedom?

Because I’m my own boss and doing what I enjoy (making money with scrapbooking and a network marketing product congruent with my core passions… travel, time freedom and debt freedom).

I control my time, my day, my activities, my income, everything.

Because I control my own income, I have financial freedom.

And…

…The financial freedom allows the time freedom which allows me to pursue my passions which puts a skip in my step. 

See how that works?

 

Let’s focus on YOUR passion and bring this home to YOU.

  • What are you passionate about? 
  • Can you quickly identify what your passions are?
  • What makes your heart sing?
  • What are you doing everyday that makes getting out of bed excited to start your day?
  • How are you doing in the “passions department” of your life?

I challenge you today, not tomorrow, to reflect on your life.  If you’re not where you want to be, why not?

Understand that nothing is impossible and it’s never too late!  If you believe that with me, you will be unstoppable!

If you’re not on the right path, I encourage you to start a journal of a new journey.  Fresh starts and new beginnings are fresh each day.  If you have been feeling unfilled, ask God to lead you down a new path and to reveal and renew your passions that He created within you.  He’s faithful and He’ll do it!

You only have one life.  This is not a rehearsal and there’s no second takes.  Search deep into what you want and go after it with yet another passion.

I wanted to write this blog to identify the problem, to help you start to face it and do something about it.

I’m cheering you on my friend!

Have an awesome  passion filled day!  You’re awesome!

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PS;  I would love to hear from you.  Please leave a comment and share if you’ve ever struggled to find and discover your passion.  What did you do to dig deep, to peel your onion so to speak, and begin a journey of following your passions?

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Comments

  1. says

    Thank you Debbie for this article. It is so true in many people that I know, they are sometimes like zombies just going through the motions of a life and not fully living in the moment. For me, I look for the lessons sadness brings me and from my past experience know that with every darkness in my life, I am so close to a new door opening up that helps me to move from sadness to anticipation of what’s next. So many people are on auto pilot today, they forget to enjoy each day on their journey and because of that are missing out on so much. I try to always smile at everyone I pass, you never know who’s day you could be making just a bit brighter. Everyone makes a difference. This is the only journey we get find what makes you happy and go for it. Thanks again for sharing Debbie.

  2. Debbie Turner says

    Linda, you have a great outlook on “after the storm comes the sun”. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and input. I appreciate you!

  3. Bonnie Marie Wilson says

    I really enjoyed your post Debbie! I felt like I was sitting across from you, and we were just talking. You spoke from your heart with some real words of wisdom, some words of invitation, and you showed who you really are!

    Good on yaaaa!

  4. Debbie Turner says

    Gosh, thanks Bonnie for those kind words…. I did write from my heart. I have a deeper message these days and I want to make a difference. I appreciate you taking the time to let me know your thoughts. Hugs…:)

  5. says

    What a beautiful article Debbie. My problem is I have too many passions :)
    Seriously, when I work with my clients I find that so many have become zombies – even young people in their 20’s. I assist them using the onion to peel the layers off, to go back and recognize that good old subconscious that carries so much. Identify those old words like “you can’t do that” “you must do this or that” and so on.

    I empathize with you here because it is painful to see a person that cannot identify with their passion. We all have them, and this article brings it to light.

    I am sure that this article will inspire many people and invoke their curiosity to shed those layers and dig deep down to see what their passion is.

    We need more teachers like you in the world. Thanks for sharing this with us. Donna

  6. says

    Hey Debbie,
    Great, great inspirational article that is so well written. Thanks for sharing your energy/thoughts/heart and forging a pathway for all of us to stay or get more motivated.

    Later,
    Toni Mck………..

  7. says

    Hi Debbie,

    Very well said! Through my 35-year career as a psychotherapist, I couldn’t agree more that a great many people have become disconnected from their inner source of passion and joy in living. There are many causes and conditions for this, not least of which is being chronically stressed out with endless pressures–too much to do and too little time to do it.

    As you point out so accurately, Debbie, in order to wake up out of this nightmarish existence, most of us need some quiet moments of full presence–to stop our busy doingness for awhile and to just be. At these times, we are much more likely to become aware of what we’re missing.

    As one of my mentors, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, likes to say, “if you’re missing your moments, you’re missing your life. This is it!”

    All the best in following your bliss,
    George
    .-= George Shears´s last blog ..Mindfulness–A Non-Religious Path to Spiritual Development =-.

  8. Debbie Turner says

    George, thank you so much for your valuable contribution! I hope everyone reads your thoughts and input. “If you’re missing your moments, you’re missing your life. This is it!” is also truly something to take to heart!

  9. says

    Debbie, this is such an important subject. We talk about the epidemic of heart disease, diabetes and cancer however we do not publicly discuss the epidemic of society’s loss of passion.

    In my world because of the law of attraction, I am blessed to know many passionate people however as we reach out, we do find many that think they have lost the ability to dream. They are afraid to dream.

    We are imprisoned by our own minds and pass memories. I can think of nothing better but to live by example which I believe gives others permission to open up and dream again.

    God resides within each one of us and no one should die with the music still within them.

    Faith
    .-= Faith Barnard´s last blog ..Mike Klingler’s Marketing Funnel Mastery Course- the Missing Link in Your Online Marketing =-.

  10. says

    Dear Debbie,

    Thank you for this post. I have been dealing with my own lack of passion lately so it is very timely. I have spent the last couple of years trying to heal after a big emotional loss. I find that the loss is so complete that I’m left numb and without direction. This is unusual for me because I’ve always been a person with dreams and plans and a million things I love. So I appreciate your post bringing this up.

    My question to you is this: time freedom would be great for me. I would love to have time to do what heals me. But I’ve been working on building an internet business for a few years and frankly, it gives anything but time freedom. I hear many people with the same story–while you are learning and building and growing, this business is a time hog. I do lots of work with very little monetary reward.

    So is being your own boss really the way to time freedom?

    Julia

    PS. I love my business and I love working for myself. I’m not sure I could ever get a job again. But my experience is that working for myself is hard. I do it for many reasons (and the hope for time freedom in the future is one of them), but for now, I don’t do it because I have extra time.

  11. says

    Hello Debbie,

    It’s been a while now I thought I would drop by and boy I’m glad I did. You know the Mass seem to have all their passion just drawn out of them and they never seem to get it re-energize. All of us has had are share of bumps in the road, heck that is just life and part of the journey.

    Sometimes in life we need to stop and listen and re-group with a different approach and understand that the failures that comes along are blessings if you understand this, you then will know that is the biggest step in this journey of ours called success.
    .-= Robert Mergupis´s last blog ..Learning What Life’s Rules Are First- =-.

  12. Debbie Turner says

    Hi Julia,

    Boy, I can feel your frustration and your desire to truly want to be successful as an entrepreneur. First of all, good for you for hanging in there. Most would have completely quit by now.

    You mentioned that the loss you suffered has left you numb and without direction. While I’m certainly no expert in this field, as I a friend, I would so encourage you to seek out professional Christian counseling and help. I’ve had to see help on occasion and it’s helped me to deal with situations in my life that seemed unbearable. That’s the first thing.

    Second, dig inside of you and make a list of all those passions you said you have. See how you can tie your passion to your business. Then begin to share your passion with others, maybe even your process of healing through the tremendous loss you’ve suffered. People are hurting out there just like you and when one is brave enough to share their story, mix in their passion and be present, living in the moment, others will be attracted to you. They will want to connect with you and learn more about what you do.

    People love to buy from people they feel they know, like and trust. So working on the relationships and sharing your passion without pushing your products or service is real effective and genuine. Have you read the Renegade Network Marketer? It talks about attraction marketing. Are you using attraction marketing pieces in your advertising? In connecting with others? This is what made the difference for me. I learned so much on how to utilize attraction marketing through the book and Magnetic Sponsoring. It’s this book that’s helped me discover how to have people chasing me down, rather than me grinding for years.

    Lastly, stay in personal development. Your words create your reality. If you think something is hard… it will be. Your thoughts will always prove you right. So how about you change the words to produce a different outcome. For example, rather than “working for myself is hard”, you can say, “my business is getting easier and easier every day and my success is right around the corner”. Make a list of your dreams and goals and visualize them, touch them, feel them, and change your thoughts about every negative thing that pops in that head of yours. It’s amazing how the universe will give you what you think and say. This week, all the time, be joyous in your business and let that reflect in your marketing. See what happens… Let me know.
    I’d love to hear back from you.

  13. says

    Hi Debbie
    Thank you so much for such a deep, well thought out and well written post.
    For me passion is the juice that makes life so tasty and irresistible. Can you imagine eating your favourite steak but without the juice? Or how are you affected by listening to a speaker who speaks with a monotone voice, using no examples, no humor and with a  dead pan expression on their face? Dry as a prison biscuit.
    For me it took a while to discover my deeper passions. As a youth my life purpose was wrapped up in sports, particularly football. It led me to pursuing a Bachelor of Education degree, majoring in physical education. It was the sport I was attracted to. Becoming a teacher was not on the radar at all. It  wasnt until some 20 years later that it dawned upon me that I was born to teach and that I really loved it.  From my observation and interpretation many or perhaps most newbie teachers believe that they are a teacher of mathematics, English, history or whatever. Externally speaking that is true. However to be a teacher for life and to remain passionate about it requires one to go a whole lot deeper and realise that as a teacher you are in a position to positively impact the inner world (spirit) of another human being. That is priceless. That naturally brings out a volunteer spirit in me. I then know, this is what I love to do and I will continue to do it, in some shape or form for the rest of my life.
    By the way, thank you Debbie for your  help  some months back. I look forward to further dialogue and sharing your posts.
    Warm Regards
    Paul Saver

  14. Debbie Turner says

    Paul, you inspire me. Thank for you taking the time and writing. I think how blessed the students who have been under your wing are. With your heart and spirit of teaching and giving, you can’t go wrong. So glad to know you!

  15. says

    Hi Debbie:
    I have many passion. I need to get busy with my dreams and passion. It like I don't know how. Where to get the money from. Where to begin.
    Betty

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