Being excited about starting a home based business or other entrepreneurial endeavor and announcing it to your friends, can be an experience you hadn’t counted on.
Friendships are essential to our sense of who we are absolutely. We value friends, but the path of friendship, like love, rarely runs smooth all the time.
After all, we are individuals first with our own deep desires, fears, and experiences and all through our lives we are molding ourselves to who we think we need to be based on our friends’ perception of us.
This can be especially true when we approach our friends about our desires to become an entrepreneur.
Whether it be a brick and mortar business or a home based online business, if their perception of what that entails and looks like is in disagreement with yours, there’s immediate conflict. There’s a tenseness to the conversation and a strain on the relationship.
More often than not, our friends will not be quick to support us in starting a home based business, but rather to shut us down.
There are many reasons for this and it could be as simple as their own past failure in a home based business opportunity or fear that if you succeed, they will have no place in your life. They may not even be able to recognize the real reason on the surface.
You cannot allow this influence in your life. If you know that God has called you to serve others as an entrepreneur, and serving others is the name of the game, then you have to learn how to cope with that or you won’t make it. You need people who will surround you with words of encouragement, pushing you succeed, and believing in you.
If you don’t have that in your immediate family and friends group, it’s critical that you start hanging out with the right people through online communities. There are thousands of groups that meet online… in Facebook Groups, on Google hangouts, on Skype, in other social media venues. There are also thousands of offline events that you can attend where other entrepreneurs come from all over the world to mastermind, network and share their lives, their experiences, their challenges and victories.
NOTE TO NON ENTREPRENEURIAL FRIENDS:
How should you act toward your friend who has a dream of entrepreneurship?
When our friends approach us with aspirations of starting a home based business, we might find it hard to give objective advice inasmuch as we want them to the person we want them to be.
We may feel jealous of a friend’s achievements or desires for success when we want to feel happy for her.
We can be reluctant to allow each other to change, sometimes falling out in a way that is painful for all involved.
And yet, friendships are vitally important; central to our enjoyment of life.
Friends are central to this all-important sense of validation we all need. When a friend confirms to us that our home based business ideas are good, and wants to support us in our endeavors, we feel safer, reassured.
On the other hand, when we say, “No, home businesses are scams”, we are killing the inner entrepreneur that God created to surface in that person.
Not only that, but we are validating our friend in a negative, hurtful way…. Insinuating they are stupid for wanting to start their home based business.
HOW TO SUPPORT YOUR FRIEND
SUPPORT YOUR FRIEND EMOTIONALLY.
REMIND YOUR FRIEND OF THEIR DREAMS
WHEN THEY GET DISCOURAGED.
BE THEIR BIGGEST CHEERLEADER.
WHEN YOU DO, THEY’ll KNOW THEY HAVE A
BEST FRIEND WHO CARES.
YOU WILL BREATH LIFE INTO THEM IN
A WAY THAT NOBODY ELSE CAN
Before we share with our friends our intentions of starting a home based business, or if our friends come to us with the same news, let’s be careful to jump to conclusions and spew on each other. Words are life and death. Be a life giver!
Life is a beautiful journey with friends. Give space, approach with love and care and allow your friend to explore his/her entrepreneurship desires with you.
It doesn’t mean you join and partner with them in the actual business, but it does mean, you can be their biggest fan and cheer them on.
Here’s another article I wrote that contributes to this conversation.
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