It’s Not How You Start, It’s How You Finish
We all want to live our life so that when our race is over and we cross the finish line, we know that we know that we know… that we finished well.
I heard a message this week on the topic of finishing well. It caused me to hit the pause button and reflect because I felt a sense of urgency to make sure that the race I’m running will be one that I’ve finished well.
After all, we get one race and one race only.
As I’ve run my race in life, I’ve stumbled.
Other times I’ve completely fallen, and in fact, it took me years to get back up.
I’ve missed the mark at times.
I’ve made poor decisions I regret.
I think if we are honest, we can all say that about some aspect of our lives at some point in time.
BECAUSE…. well, that’s part of life.
And this crosses all aspects of our lives: business, education, relationships, it doesn’t matter.
Life is a learning experience.
For example, this last Mothers Day I was reflecting on the way I raised my kids. I believed that I had always done the best for my children as they were growing up.
(This is a picture of my scrapbook album from about 10 years ago of my family)
When I reflect back on those child rearing years, if I had it to do over again, I’d do some things different. Positively. Absolutely.
I can see mistakes I made; hindsight is 20/20.
There’s no need for me to dwell on the past and I’m glad my children are all happy, well adjusted adults and contributors to society and their families, but I can look forward with a new set of lenses because kids of all ages still can benefit from the wisdom of their parents. I want to be the best I can be for them even still. In this regard, I feel like each day is a new second chance to be an extraordinary mom to them.
We learn and grow as we go and hopefully we make less and less errors in our ways as we gain wisdom.
Yes, those things shape us, both our thoughts, actions and behaviors but they don’t have to define us, nor do we have to accept that that’s the best it gets.
There’s good news.
THAT SWEET SECOND CHANCE
Take Vernon for example.
The story is of a man who was sentenced to prison for a period of time and who thought he could never redeem himself to his family, his friends, and others who knew him. His sentence was to begin the day before his daughter’s wedding of which he was to officiate which made the situation even more bitter.
He wondered if it was too late to have new relationships, new opportunities and a fresh start.
After being released, he was determined that his past was his past and he would step out into this world and grab a hold of his second chance.
We all deserve second chances.
That decision would lead him to live a life and serve others in a way that changed lives forever.
He went on to serve in our church, filled with wisdom and a heart to help others understand the power of starting over, second chances, and grace. Through his second chance lifespan, he witnessed restoration in couples he’d counseled, young men and women reach their potential, and his own family become a strong, loving bond.
Vernon passed away this last week and as he breathed his last, he could say, “I finished the race of life WELL”. Yes, he finished well.
Your Second Chance In Business
Maybe you’ve tried a home based business, or two or three or 15. This doesn’t mean that number 16 will also be a failure.
My friends, if you have thoughts of having something better in your life, having more for your family, feeling like you know there’s more to life than the 9-5 grind, don’t give up.
Rather, take on the determination of a second chance and look in the mirror and ask why the first 15 didn’t work out. If you’re honest, you’ll find answers perhaps like…
“I didn’t grow my mindset and belief.”
“I didn’t master a marketing skillset.”
“I was afraid to talk to people.”
… whatever the truth is for you.
Perhaps nobody shared with you that mindset is 90% of winning. 10% is the learned skillset of placing ads and connecting with people. My guess is when you reflect back on your previous failed businesses, there was a mindset issue, be it lack of confidence, lack of belief, lack of feeling like you deserve success, fear of failure, fear of rejection, the list is long.
If you will spend time in personal development and grow your mindset, your business success just follows. It’s a beautiful transformation. This growth must be a part of your second chance, regardless of the area of life you are seeking that second chance.
Have you every asked yourself…
“This is never in million years where I thought I’d be at this point in my life.” Or…
“If you’d told me when I was 18 that I would be here at my age of (name your age) I’d never have believed it.” Or…
“I thought I’d be further along by now.” Or…
“I’ve failed in so many business attempts, there’s no hope for me. I quit!” Or…
“I’ve messed up my life so bad that I could never be anything more than I am right now.”
If so, you need to know that God is a God of second chances. And third chances. And four chances.
There’s a never ending well of new chances to start over again. His grace and mercy and love run deep and are forever.
We are where we at based on our best thinking. This is why personal development, reading and listening to positive personal growth materials are so critical to success in second chances.
Here’s Three Easy Steps to Begin a Journey of a Second Chance in Business.
(because this is a blog about entrepreneurship).
Run as fast as you can to the library and check out books on personal development. Get your mindset working for you. The cool thing about personal development is it teaches you how to grow up as an entrepreneur. This stuff isn’t taught in schools, unfortunately, and don’t get me going on that because these are lifeskills 1o1.
Schools want to teach you how to be an employee. It’s those what want to be employers who have to reach outside of school and learn the ropes on how to think, how to respond, how to lead, how to be confident, how to grow a business, etc.
This is self-education that ALL entrepreneurs have taught themselves. It’s the absolute foundation for your success. So read books, listen to audios, watch videos, invest in courses, I’ve done all of this and continue to do this.
Here’s the thing. You never stop growing. Tiger Woods still has 2 coaches to teach him how to golf.
I mean, you always have to be learning, sharpening your skills, reviewing the basics of thinking right. The moment you stop doing that, you begin to go backwards. So more than anything when you come across obstacles in your business, you should have your nose in the book to keep you going.
Grab a piece of clean paper. It represents a new fresh start. On your paper, write down how you thought your life would be like at this point in time.
Is it too late for you to still have it? No, it’s not, so let that thought go out the window, never to return. BAM!
Sure, you’re a little bit older, a bit wiser…but that doesn’t mean you can’t have the life you want. It’s never too late for a second chance.
I believe that if God plants in you a vision, He will give you EVERYTHING you need to achieve that.
So on your paper, write down and get crystal clear on what you want your life to look like.
- What are you doing during your days and evenings?
- How are you hanging out with?
- Where are you vacationing?
- What car are you driving?
- What community outreach are you doing?
Get specific and clear in your mind. Write it down. This is your destination.
You can’t possibly get to your destination if you have no idea where you’re going. This the reason for this exercise.
Take actions toward those goals and that dream through your home based business. Your business is your VEHICLE to get you where you want to go.
Decide on a product and company that you can believe in.
Consider the amount of commissions you earn because at the end of the day, it’s those commissions that will provide you the income you require to live the life you want.
Decide how you want to market your business.
Do you want to do old school talking to friends and family and doing meeting?
Or do you want to learn some skills and market using the internet (online marketing) Here’s the system I use to learn all things internet marketing.
There’s just a handful of tools you need to start running your home based business if you’re serious. I’ll share those in another article but reach out to me in the meantime and we’ll have a chat about that.
So, in making a decision to grab a hold of your second chance, put on paper the goals and dreams you have to which you want to finish well, and then take deliberate steps to move towards the end result.
- It may be that home based business and the freedom you want from that.
- It may be the healing of family relationships.
- It may be the healing of friendships.
- It may be the financial provisions for your family.
- It may be the legacy of who you become that will live on.
- What do you want people to say about you after you leave this earth?
- What impact do you want to leave on your family?
You CAN leave a legacy.
You CAN have what your heart beats for.
You CAN be passionate about your work and life
You CAN serve others and be touched
It’s not too late to for a second chance.
It’s not how you start, it’s how you finish my friends.
You CAN finish well. Make a decision today to do that.
Love you today…
Let me know how I can serve you.
PS: Ready to start a home based business? Reach out to me and I’ll let you know what I’m doing to the live the life I love. Perhaps it’s a fit for you as well. Connect with me on Facebook or hit the Contact Debbie button above and let’s talk.