Are You Psychologically Unemployable?
When I first heard the term, ‘psychologically unemployable‘, it smacked me in the head immediately and I said to myself, “Yes! That’s me!”. I finally had a name attached to the inner me!
I was relieved to know that how I had been feeling for years had already been diagnosed or labeled. It was also reassuring to know that there were tons of people (entrepreneurs) just like me with the same shared feelings and emotions.
So what is it? Is is real? Is is something we throw around as a cute saying but put real no weight behind it?
I can tell you it’s real. And you’ll know if you are psychologically unemployable by the end of this article.
During my 7 year career as a legal assistant and my 13 year career as a real estate agent, while I was successful in both and considered at the top of my pay scale, there was always a “misfit” feeling about myself. I never liked hearing about (and thus separated myself from) the woes of life that people seem to look forward to hashing over and over around the water cooler each day, the latest gossip, the lack and poverty mentality that appeared to be ‘OK’ and accepted by everyone, and receiving a paycheck on Friday and thinking to myself, “I deserve more out of life.”
The psychologically unemployable are those who, like me, scream, “I want out!”
It gets to a point where we walk off the job, pull off the ties, the starched collared shirts, the high heals and suits and we embrace free enterprise with a passion.
We cannot be put in a box, punch a clock, be someones gopher in exchange for a token paycheck after 40+ hours a week.
We literally are itching to make our own way and there’s nothing that can stop us.
Our desire to NOT work in a JOB for someone else is so driven, we will do anything to not have to do that so we can be in our element to create and be and do what we are passionate about and be paid our value.
The psychologically unemployable means you are a rebel, a throwback, an outcast, a renegade, a radical, a mustang, a stallion, dysfunctional, don’t fit in, out of the status quo, tired of trading time for dollars, an out of the box thinker, an artist, a musician, or any multitude of other adjectives.
Not everyone is called to be an entrepreneur.
Not by a long shot. In fact, most people have no business going into business but do so because they think it’s a quick answer to fast money.
But if you go to ‘work’ and have anxious, overwhelming feelings like you just have to get out of there so you can be creative to pursue you own dreams, ideas and lifestyle, you are probably an entrepreneur or in the process of becoming one.
Can you feel it?
I have an attitude about having to work for someone else.
Something inside me just cringes, rubs me wrong, makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. It’s not me at all.
Don’t misunderstand, I enjoy working and I’m the hardest worker I know. But, it’s work that I choose to do, when I choose to do it, and I’m in control of everything from my time, to my product and/or services, my income, all of it.
The thought of being put in a box and told what to do, when to do it and how to do it just puts me in a tailspin.
Can you relate? Are you one of us?
If so, you have two choices.
1) Ignore your feelings and live in regret, never pursuing what you’re called to do.
2) Take whatever fear you have about entrepreneurship and get over it so you can live the life you were meant to.
The good news is that as a budding entrepreneur, there are thousands out there just like you. There are fabulous support networks and exciting new friendships to explore along your journey.
We are like-minded and we ‘get it‘. While most, if not all, of our family and friends are not wired for entrepreneurship like we are and have no qualms about telling us that we are absolutely crazy for even thinking about being our own boss, it’s nice to know that you can turn to others for support and growth to help us along.
The important thing to remember is that we only have one life.
We are each given a set of talents and gifts to bless others.
We are created by God for a purpose and a calling and He doesn’t implant dreams, hopes and a spirit of entrepreneurship within those who are called and then not equip us for the task. No.
He gives us all the things we need to succeed but we have to do our part to bring it together. In fact, God gives us permission to succeed and purposes our life toward that end.
Don’t be influenced by family, friends and strangers who want to hold you back, tell you you aren’t good enough, you don’t come from the right side of the tracks, you don’t have enough smarts, or whatever else they can conjure up (and they really believe it).
You can chose your thoughts and words to create your reality and believe what you want about yourself.
Be that rebel, the outcast, the stallion that makes his/her own way.
The road can be bumpy and long but for the few who take it, it’s the most beautiful journey to time and financial freedom to behold.
When you have time and financial freedom, you are now in a position to significantly impact the lives of others who are not able to help themselves and you can be a storehouse of blessings.
When you take flight on your own, you’ll change the world.
You’ll influence others.
You’ll share your story.
You’ll impact lives.
I believe in you!
Charlie Hudson says
"psychologically unemployable"….. I like that phrase a lot! I have attempted several online ventures before but found myself overwhelmed …..
Hey Debbie. So good stuff here! Look forward to your next post
Michael Ruttkowski says
Since 2 years I am an entrepreneur. It is a fun way to go your own way! Find the right company to join and the success will follow! Winners don't quit and quitters don't win!
Moises Suazo says
I’m glad I’m not the only one. I Once I had a taste of being an entrepreneur, and I loved the freedom that came along with it as well as the money. However, due to certain circumstances, I went back to having a desk job. I was miserable, because I felt caged. Everyone else was willing to conform to 9-5 routine, and ok salary. They had no problem with it? I would actually ask myself if there was something wrong with me, I felt like some mutant or something lol. Why did I think so differently? I guess it was at that point that I started to realize that I was psychologically unemployable. Once I came across like minded people like Debbie, and others, I started to realized that I wasn’t so crazy after all. Working a nine to five and having a glass ceiling is not an obligation, although it seems to be what’s expected out of us. Entrepreneurship isn’t necessarily encouraged in our society. The government needs a workforce for the less desirable jobs period. I’m really glad there are other options out there like network marketing. Great post Debbie thanks for sharing!
Debbie Turner says
Hey Moises, I hear ya. I feel ya.
For me, I think growing up, although my parents were entrepreneurs, for some reason, I wasn’t tuned into it. At 18 I started a home based business with Princess House crystal (it’s a home party plan) but I did so for the love of it. I was able to build my own collection of beautiful crystal while still holding down a great full time job. I was content, I was happy. it’s what I did. It wasn’t until I had a great real estate practice that took a dive in 2007 that I truly ‘woke up’ to being my own boss without the stress, the liability, the hours I had to put in and turned to online marketing for true replacement income. And to this day, the thought of having to report to work sends me through the roof. 🙂 My mind won’t accept it. Just like you.
You’re right, society expects that we will fulfill our obligations as workers, and not entrepreneurs.
Thanks for sharing Moises, I love to hear from you. Hope all is well my friend.