3 Tips for Keeping Friends
While Building Your Business
Let's say you want more out of life than what you've been getting. As such, you make a decision that things will change. You dive into personal development and start a home based business that seems to be taking off nicely. You're enjoying the journey you're on and taking steps to create time and financial security for you and your family.
This is great, right?
For you? Absolutely!
For your friends? You may be surprised.
As you become more and more the person and entrepreneur you want to become, your friends will take notice. They won’t be able to help it.
You will be more focused on your work, have goals, have new energy in your step, and have a great lookout on the future. The change will be good but these changes could hinder a friendship or two.
So why would your friends, those who love and care for you the most, sometimes seem less than thrilled about your success?
You’d think it would be just the opposite. And, in fair game, often it is, but when you least expect it, you may get some resistance from even your best of friends.
There’s a couple of reasons why this is and with a little awareness and understanding, you can set the table for a good conversation or two with your friend.
Jealousy can mess up a friendship quickly.
One possibility for the hiccup could be that your friend is jealous of your new success. It’s not so much as you becoming successful as it is your friend is not taking the same path. Your success may be causing them to feel inferior.
Engage your friend in conversation and dialog in what they are doing and validate their work as being important. Do this sincerely and take a true interest.
Help your friend take an interest in something they’ve always wanted to pursue and encourage them to go after what they want. Be a great cheerleader for them. It can be anything new, a hobby even, not necessarily work related.
No more pitty parties?
If the relationship with this friend prior to your “new you” involved some great pitty parties, those probably don’t serve you very well these days.
There will definitely be differences in conversations, the words you choose, your new positive thoughts and mindset about what's possible.
This can be awkward when one person is developing and using the power of positive thinking to move forward in life and the other does not.
Furthermore, the friend that does not develop and grow, doesn’t understand the power of these things.
What happens is it puts two individuals at a totally different level of understanding of what’s possible.
The two of you can grow apart on those levels but if you you love each other as true friends do, it will be worth working through. You can certainly come together on common ground and do all the things you love to do together. Just make sure that your friend doesn’t pull you down. That’s never healthy.
Help your friend to see the bright side of things and help them become solutions oriented rather than problem dwellers. Turn those pitty parties into power parties. Empower them to be more, do more but don't push.
Could your friend be feeling like you don’t need them anymore?
Friends rely on friends to help them through life. If you are doing well, your friend my not see that their influence or time with you would mean anything.
If this is a person you want to keep in your life, simply saying the words to them "hey, I'm glad we're friends", will go along way.
When your friend makes a statement or comment that ads value to your business and your life, let the person know you appreciate their thoughts and comments.
You can initiate an outing, send flowers or mailing a handwritten card (for guys….hosting a party for a ball game, or Saturday BBQ) will go a long way.
Friends who are friends at the deepest level of commitment will work through any obstacles. The ones who do not communicate and seem to not care after awhile, you may have to question whether they were really friends at all.
What are some things you do to maintain your friendships in a positive, growing, nurturing manner? Please leave me a comment and share.
To Your Lifelong Friendships and Success!
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